Admittedly, I am little late, but watching this video inspired the following train of thought so do yourself a favor and get on track.
The moment of clarity that trails after a breakup is never as moving or as stripped from emotion as this is, and I suppose that is, what makes them so complicated. The task of melding your individualism with another is wearisome in itself but having to cut those ties prematurely or, worse still, after smugness has set in is a humbling experience. Having been on both sides of the fence, I can say with a fair bit of self-assurance, which it's easier to commence a breakup, the tricky part is that initiating the divide and the end of the relationship rarely takes place simultaneously.
As the video portrays, once the relationship is "officially" over issues ranging from the possession of a persons heart or the boundaries of this newly formed friendship are yet to be arranged and as such it is a confusing time. However, it can also be the point in time that allows us the greatest insight into how and why the relationship worked in the first place in addition to granting the opportunity for self reflection…the wondering "where did it go wrong" or the more toxic "what did I do wrong."
One of my favorite artist’s Cee-Lo, stated that days that titles are limitations, living and learning are our only obligations, but when such an emphasis is put on a title and that title is revoked you are left with nothing, but limitations.
Now that I’m good and into it, the question that needs to be asked is so what?
Relationships come to an conclusion all of the time but the point is that often times we carry with us the baggage of those relationships, unaware that luggage has been silently changing positions in the overhead bin while soaring through life. The emotional ties we develop are always retained in some form or fashion, and adjusting to them is paramount if we're to make it out of the love life alive. Some react with "passive aggressive contention" towards those we claim to love, and others cling onto more concrete remedies like polite bi-annual phone calls (on those shitty days, or to lift heavy things). No matter though, the first step is coming to grips with where you stand on the relationship and learning from the experience.
Remember folks that with those limitations gone, living and learning are your only obligations.
The moment of clarity that trails after a breakup is never as moving or as stripped from emotion as this is, and I suppose that is, what makes them so complicated. The task of melding your individualism with another is wearisome in itself but having to cut those ties prematurely or, worse still, after smugness has set in is a humbling experience. Having been on both sides of the fence, I can say with a fair bit of self-assurance, which it's easier to commence a breakup, the tricky part is that initiating the divide and the end of the relationship rarely takes place simultaneously.
As the video portrays, once the relationship is "officially" over issues ranging from the possession of a persons heart or the boundaries of this newly formed friendship are yet to be arranged and as such it is a confusing time. However, it can also be the point in time that allows us the greatest insight into how and why the relationship worked in the first place in addition to granting the opportunity for self reflection…the wondering "where did it go wrong" or the more toxic "what did I do wrong."
One of my favorite artist’s Cee-Lo, stated that days that titles are limitations, living and learning are our only obligations, but when such an emphasis is put on a title and that title is revoked you are left with nothing, but limitations.
Now that I’m good and into it, the question that needs to be asked is so what?
Relationships come to an conclusion all of the time but the point is that often times we carry with us the baggage of those relationships, unaware that luggage has been silently changing positions in the overhead bin while soaring through life. The emotional ties we develop are always retained in some form or fashion, and adjusting to them is paramount if we're to make it out of the love life alive. Some react with "passive aggressive contention" towards those we claim to love, and others cling onto more concrete remedies like polite bi-annual phone calls (on those shitty days, or to lift heavy things). No matter though, the first step is coming to grips with where you stand on the relationship and learning from the experience.
Remember folks that with those limitations gone, living and learning are your only obligations.
No comments:
Post a Comment